How to Win Friends and Influence People

Here are a few tips to help you get on with others under pretty much any circumstances.

1. Learn to remember names. Inefficiency at this point may indicate that your interest is not sufficiently ongoing.

2. Be a comfortable person so there is no strain in being with you. Be an old-shoe, old-hat kind of individual.

3. Acquire the quality of relaxed easy-going so that things do not ruffle you.

4. Don’t be egotistical. Guard against the impression that you know it all.

5. Listen, show you’re listening, hear what is said.  Try to make the other person feel good about themselves, this is rewarding for both of you.

6. Develop your sense of humour.  Laughter is a great ice-breaker.

7. Cultivate the quality of being interesting so people will get something of value from their association with you.

8. Being familiar with current affairs demonstrates an active mind and is often useful.

9. Study to get “anti-social” elements out of your personality, even those of which you may be unconscious. Eliminate fidgeting or unconscious habits like touching your nose or your hair.

10. Avoid favourite quips such as, always responding with “awesome” or “cool”. Choose your words with care.

11. Avoid being judgemental.  Don’t get caught up in a tirade, agreeing just to be sympathetic. Do not indulge gossip or take sides.

12. Sincerely attempt to heal, on an honest Christian basis, every misunderstanding you have had or now have. Drain off grievances.

13. Practice liking people until you learn to do so genuinely.

14. Never miss an opportunity to say a word of congratulations upon anyone’s achievement, or express sympathy in sorrow or disappointment.

15. Give spiritual strength to people, and they will give genuine affection to you.

16. Be affable, positive, charming, humerous and different.  Be yourself.